Traditions and Habits

I was thinking about the word "habit" lately as when I think of "goals," most goals involve establishing (or reestablishing) a habit of some sort. I haven't heard people refer to things like brushing their teeth every morning as a "tradition" yet aren't most traditions actually a habit albeit maybe one that is only practiced as infrequently as once a year? It seems the more mundane habits aren't labeled as traditions. Some traditions that we had for years have gone by the wayside as the kids have gotten older, but here are some of our current habits/traditions. There are others that I still need to work on doing better at such as drinking more water and flossing more regularly. 

African Burial Ground National Monument in NYC

1. The kids are required to eat a fruit or vegetable at lunch and at dinner almost every day.
2. We pray together before lunch and dinner.
3. We have a time for devotions and prayer together at 8:30pm almost every night. 
4. The kids' bedtimes are determined by their ages. Ian's bedtime just switched from 9:30 to 10:00pm because he turned thirteen this month. I've started allowing Nadia to stay up until 10:30pm on Friday nights. 
5. We listen to audiobooks together during many meals and during longer drives. I also listen to audiobooks when walking Milo and mowing the lawn. I anticipate we will hit our 1,000th book in 2023. We are thinking of celebrating with a trip to HersheyPark as we haven't been there for quite a few years. 
6. The kids and I each write a list of blessings in a special journal on Thanksgiving Day.
7. The kids write thank you notes for gifts they've received from people outside of our immediate family. 
8. We have donuts for breakfast as a birthday treat, and the birthday girl/boy gets the extra donut from the half dozen. 
9. We celebrate the kids' physical and spiritual birthdays.
10. Turns for screen time must be earned almost all the time, and there is a limit on how much time can be used in one day.
11. On Sundays we attend a worship service together at 9:00, and then we attend separate classes/groups at 10:45.
12. Ian and Nadia are also at church from 4:30-8:00 on Wednesdays. Some weeks of the year Oliver and I are there from 6:30-8:00.
13. We decorate the house for Christmas sometime after Thanksgiving and put most of it away by the end of December. I keep the snowman stuff up through the middle of March. I significantly expanded our Christmas decorations this year.
14. The kids each receive a gift for Valentine's Day.
15. The kids each go on 2-3 dates per year with a parent. This year Paul and I also managed to go on three dates so I'm hoping that will become an annual tradition for us to go on at least three dates together as a couple. 
16. I walk Milo three times a day (3-5 miles total). 
17. Ian and Oliver get at least one shower or bath a week, typically on Saturday.
18. I cut Ian, Paul, Milo, and Oliver's hair.
19. Nadia and Ian take turns every other week with cleaning the guinea pig cage and every other night in terms of having Milo sleep with them.
20. The kids earn Junior Ranger patches or badges at National Park sites.
21. We are working toward our goal of visiting all 50 states together.
22. The kids go skiing once or twice a year when it's free with our WVIA membership.
23. We go to DelGrosso's once a summer when it's 50% off.
24. We go to Knoebels and Montage Mountain water park once a year when it's free with our WVIA membership.
25. We spend two days at Great Wolf Lodge in December to celebrate Ian's birthday.
26. Some of us eat monkey bread in the morning on a few holidays each year.
27. We wear patriotic clothing on July 4th and Memorial Day.
28. I send out Christmas cards to friends and family.
29. We attend a candlelight service at our church on Christmas Eve.
30. The kids and I make Christmas cookies.
31. A weekly family fun night is something we've started more recently; each of us have had the opportunity to plan one this year. I think in 2023 we should each get to plan nine family fun nights. We haven't had a tradition for New Year's Day or New Year's Eve in the past, but this year I said that the three kids together should plan a longer than usual Family Fun Night for December 31. I think this will also become an annual tradition. 
32. We volunteer with Compassion at concerts, and I regularly write letters to the five kids we sponsor.
33. The kids and I help out with service projects at our church, First Baptist, and Experience Missions.
34. The kids each attend one week of overnight camp as a camper. This summer Nadia started a new tradition of also serving as a counselor for at least one week. Nadia is hoping to make it a tradition to attend a few days at winter camp every year (starting this month). COVID foiled those plans the last two years. 
35. I try new recipes every year. My goal for 2023 is to try at least twelve new recipes.
36. I invite at least twelve families (not counting relatives) over to our home for dinner each year.
37. Nadia and Ian take turns with Milo during the various school subjects each day.
38. The kids get candy at Trunk or Treat events and trick or treating in October and at Easter egg hunts in March or April. Oliver is the only one who hasn't aged out of the egg hunts yet. 
39. We do a cousin swap in the summer with Yvonne's family.
40. I use the MealBoard app to keep track of what we make for dinner and dessert so that we don't get in a rut of making the same few dishes all the time. I try to go 3-4 months before making the same dish for dinner. We typically have breakfast for dinner once a week.
41. We attend new productions at Sight and Sound (typically once every year or two) and also Christmas and Easter productions at a church in Camp Hill once or twice a year (sometimes with other family members). 
42. We take approximately 145 days to complete the curriculum each school year. The remaining 35 days are for field trips. We usually end up logging more than 180 days including field trips. 
43. I spend time learning Spanish on Duolingo every single day. Nadia is the most faithful of the kids, but all three attempt to do Duolingo every day. Ian sometimes completes lessons in other languages (such as German). 
44. Ian practices the piano about four days a week on average. He recently started working on some piano duets to play with me. I would love it if that became a new habit! 
45. Nadia has a great habit of reading for pleasure. Her current favorite author is Karen Kingsbury.
46. The kids take ten weeks of ice-skating lessons from January through March and attend a free Christmas ice skating party in December.
47. The kids attend three free homeschool roller skating parties each year in September, December, and February.
48. The kids and I have chores that we have divided up amongst the four of us. We typically do the weekly ones on Saturday.
49. We watch new episodes of The Chosen, Wingfeather Saga, and Tuttle Twins on the Angel app. We are currently enjoying the third season of The Chosen.
50. Nadia regularly chats with her cousin, Rachel, via Zoom. Ian regularly talks to his cousins Joel and Nathan via FaceTime. 
51. This year the kids and I fell in love with the homemade peanut butter Oreo ice cream at Old Mill Creamery, and the kids want buying a gallon of that ice cream to be something we do throughout the year for birthdays and other special occasions. 
52. The kids attended their first (touring) Broadway show in 2018 (Aladdin in Buffalo), and I thought we'd have a tradition of going to one show a year. We saw Lion King in Norfolk in 2019, and then we took a hiatus due to COVID. The kids saw their first show on Broadway last week - Harry Potter and the Cursed Child. We have tickets to see a touring Broadway performance of Wicked in St. Louis in April. So far Aladdin has been our favorite show. I've seen at least ten shows over the past 30 years, and my top three would be Phantom of the Opera, Chitty Chitty Bang Bang, and Aladdin. 
53. In 2017 we started taking the kids to Corning Museum of Glass in December to do a make your own glass project. We took a hiatus the past two years due to COVID. We went this month, but it might be our last time as the experience wasn't as good as it was in 2017-2019. 
54. Typically, the only time we eat out is when we are on vacation. We use gift cards that we obtain through credit card points when we eat out. The exception to that is that we do buy pizza (to go) when we are at home, and we don't usually use gift cards for pizza. 
55. We give the kids money (the same amount of dollars as their age) for their birthday. In high school the kids receive grades after each marking period, and Nadia has been the first to receive money based on her grades. 
56. I buy a box of Hot Pockets for Nadia on her birthday and spiritual birthday, and for Christmas. 
57. Our kids get their first smart phone when they turn fourteen. Nadia doesn't have a phone number yet; she can only use her phone when she has access to Wi-Fi. We haven't decided yet when we'll get her a phone number.
58. I have been making photobooks a few times a year for many years and videos about the kids after each birthday. More recently I've been making additional videos such as recaps of our vacations. Hopefully these videos will be treasured years to come! 
59. Giving gifts to the kids' small group leaders at church (in the past this included choir directors and AWANA leaders). Some years we've given them a plate of assorted homemade cookies or a gift card. This year we gave out loaves of pumpkin bread that I made yesterday. 

Rockefeller tree in NYC