Fifty-three

As of today, my husband is 53 years old, which means in two years the two of us can join the "Classics" group at our church which is led by our former senior pastor and his wife (previously named "Best Years Fellowship".) We became friends and started dating shortly after he turned 27, so as of early next year he'll have been in a relationship with me for half of his life. Over the past 26 years, Paul has been a full-time student for 11 years, a college professor for 3 years, and worked full-time at Kennedy Concrete for 12 years - half of the time as an employee and the other half as the owner. In 1997 he had recently moved back to Pennsylvania from Albuquerque. He was single, working for his dad, had a car loan, hadn't attended college, and lived with his parents and their dog, Fergie. We've been married for almost 21.5 years, he has a B.S. in math, M.S. in chemistry, and Ph.D. in physical chemistry, we own our home and have been debt free for almost 4 years, and we have three children and have had a total of five pets (three at the moment). 

In the first 31 years of his life, Paul only went on vacation a couple of times. Not counting shorter (2-3 day) getaways, he's been on at least 25 vacations over the last 21.5 years. The kids and I went on an additional nine vacations with other relatives during which Paul didn't join us from 2011-2021. In September 2021, Paul decided that he wanted to join us for all of our future vacations. The kids still occasionally ask Paul if he will be joining us. Paul has very diverse interests, so he enjoys most of the activities included in our vacations, but the forts, battlefields, battleships, and military museums are definitely included primarily for his benefit. 

At the same time that he made the vacation decision, he also made a change in how many days/hours he spent at the plant each week. Previously he typically went into work before the kids got up and got home close to (or after) Oliver's bedtime M-F and worked shorter hours on Saturdays. Over the last fifteen months, there have been far fewer weeks when he has gone to work six days in a row. He often works on the laptop at home if he takes a day off of work (M-F). We used to have a desk in our bedroom, but we gave it to Nadia a year ago. This week I ordered him a small, simple table that I'm planning to put in the living room to become his computer desk as he's been using our dining room table as his desk for the last year. He also has been going in to work much later most of the time - in that case it's not about having more time with the kids but rather just his own preference. Typically, the only times lately that he has put in as many hours as he used to on a regular basis or gone in very early has been when his brother is on vacation. Even though his brother is on vacation this week and they will be in Baltimore at a trade show next week, Paul was planning to take tomorrow off to go skiing with the kids at Elk Mountain. The only other time he went skiing with the kids at Elk Mountain was in 2021 because the trade show was cancelled that year due to COVID. The kids and I are very thankful that Paul is now joining us more often. This ski day has been postponed by WVIA because of the warm (highs in the 50's) and wet weather forecasted for tomorrow. 

When I met Paul his hobbies included ballroom dancing, reading, chess, computer games, and watching college and professional basketball and football games on tv. Although we often went ballroom dancing in the beginning of our relationship, we have gone ballroom dancing very few times over the last 21 years. I am hoping that at some point we will resume taking ballroom dancing classes together. Over the years Paul gradually reduced how many sports he followed on tv. The last one to go was the NFL. We used to watch the Steelers and Giants' games together. We have both been completely oblivious to what has been happening in the NFL the last few years. Paul still loves to read. During the first few years that he was the owner of Kennedy Concrete he didn't read much, but over the last 2+ years he has been reading more - mostly a combination of science fiction, military history, and books about investing in the stock market. Thankfully, he is fine with reading physical books or books with the Kindle or a Kindle app because our bookshelves are overflowing with books. He received three history books for Christmas and one more for his birthday. I got him two books about the Civil War, and my dad and Margie got him one about the French and Indian War and another about the War of 1812. He hasn't played any computer games in quite a while, but he does play on our oldest iPad, which he dubbed "iPadasarous". He enjoys playing Sudoku and Boggle online. He still enjoys chess although he doesn't play very often. For the first 25.5 years that I knew him, I don't believe he ever lost a game, and the only time I remember a game ending in a draw was when he played Yvonne's friend's husband. However, in the last six months, he lost a game to the kids' Bible Bowl coach (hoping for a rematch soon), and in Virginia last week a game between Paul and my fifteen-year-old nephew, Adam, ended in a draw. Adam has improved a lot since they last played as usually Paul gives his nieces, nephews, and children an advantage as he starts the game with fewer pieces. Paul has recently gone back to reading some books about chess, which he hadn't done in a long time. 

For his birthday meal, I offered to pick up a bucket of chicken from KFC using a gift card my dad and Margie gave him for Christmas, but he asked me to make spaghetti and meatballs. Nadia made him Heath bar cookies for his birthday dessert. Hopefully this next year will be an excellent one for Paul. I know he really misses his mom. The kids and I love him very much!