Baby Registries

Well I've started working on two baby registries online. Some items I am waiting to add until we find out the gender. I have asked one friend for advice and read some info on discussion boards online as far as what people are really glad they got/asked for and also what they could have done without. I thought it wouldn't hurt to solicit advice here as well. :-) So if you have any recommendations as far as things I definitely should include or things that really aren't needed, I am all ears! :-) I already own a stroller, infant carrier, Snugli, sling, baby monitor, mirror (for the car when the baby is rear facing), pack-n-play, car seat, base for the infant carrier so it can function as a car seat, diaper bag, high quality double pump, and a contour changing pad that I have placed on a dresser to make it the "changing table." We'll be picking out a glider or rocker and a crib that my parents are giving us for Christmas/birthday.

Another (unrelated) question would be, how far along were you when you felt the baby move? I can't wait to feel the little "flutters" and then the kicking!!!! :-) I've been looking forward to that experience for many, many years.

Fourteen Weeks!

Well it feels great to say I am in my 2nd trimester, and it feels great to say 14 weeks. Baby is about the size of a clenched fist now! Did you know that baby is also sprouting some hair? And baby has the coordination, strength, and smarts to wiggle his or her fingers and toes and even suck a thumb? Baby's neck is also longer so he/she has a more straightened out appearance. I wish I was having THE ultrasound in about 2 weeks. That's when many women seem to have it (around 16 weeks), but after waiting 5+ years to have a sticky BFP I think I can wait a few extra weeks for my next ultrasound when hopefully we'll learn the gender of our little one.

Today I am shipping some unused meds from the IVF to an online friend in Texas. Our stories are very similar in terms of how long we've ttc and also how long we've tried to adopt (they've also been contracted with Lifetime to no avail). This summer they also started ttc with an RE again only they've been doing inj/iui again, but since that hasn't worked she's now on to IVF, and her insurance doesn't cover the meds at all. So I am very happy to give my extras to her, and I hope she also gets a BFP!!! She's several years younger than me, and her clinic has way better stats than mine so I think that makes it seem very promising for her.

2nd Trimester

Well I am definitely starting to notice some changes as I have moved from the 1st to the 2nd trimester. On Friday I hit 14 weeks. YAHOO! The nausea and heartburn have been getting less frequent. The nurse gave me a list of meds I can take while pg, and there were MANY more choices than Tums on that list for heartburn. So if the heartburn returns I might try Zantac or something else. Also, I am finding it easier to stay up later at night. Monday was still difficult, but I think that was because I went from work to shopping to handbells and it was just too much compared to the previous few days sitting on my couch at home most of the time. So I was ready to conk out part way through handbells. I'd say for most of the 1st trimester I was sleeping 10-11 hours most nights (actually slept 12 hours a couple of times!!). My pre-pg norm was to sleep 8-9 hours a night, and that's what it's gone back to lately. So I don't seem to need as much sleep. My belly also seems to be popping out more just in the last couple of days. I was brushing my teeth last night and happened to see my belly in the mirror and it actually sort of caught me by surprise, LOL. I'm still no where near the point where someone who doesn't already know I am pg would figure it out by looking at me.

One funny comment I got through an email yesterday after I was telling a friend about my OB appt and also about Paul's first PhD acceptance and he said "This poor kid is going to have Dr. Mom and Dr. Dad. Oh my!!" LOL! Well it will be the same for my sister's kids (Wendy) as they also already have a Dr. Mom (in violin performance) and their dad is working on his doctorate in Chicago. :-)

Heard the heartbeat!

Well we were there a longggg time but in reality our appt took less than 30 minutes. We got there about 2:15 (as they said to come 15 minutes early), and the nurse met with us from 2:30-2:50 (they had said that part would take an hour). She said the doctor would be with us in a few minutes. Well he actually didn't come into the room until 3:50; he did seem very nice. The nurse asked me what my EDD was and I said it is either July 18 or 20, and she entered July 18 (I know this as later the OB said that I was 13w4d). The appointment with the doctor took about 5 minutes - first we listened to the heartbeat. It took awhile for him to find it - but he did! He said it will get a lot louder as the baby grows bigger. The nurse and doctor both said the pregnancy is considered high risk - the nurse said it was because of my previous ectopic, infertility, and my age. The doctor said I was high risk only because of my age. So later he will have me have an appointment with the high risk doctor.

I knew when I walked in the room I wasn't going to have an ultrasound. It turns out they don't even have one in the office! This is a downside I guess of having picked the smaller hospital. Of course it was nice to have a 2 minute commute to work after my appointment. I would have any ultrasounds done in the hospital's radiology department. I knew there was a good chance that he'd just do the fetal doppler, but I admit I was hoping to receive a new picture showing a bigger baby! Plus others had posted they had learned the gender as early as 12-13 weeks through ultrasound so I had a tiny glimmer of hope that maybe we'd learn the gender today although I knew that was iffy. My next appointment is for February 15, and I made it for 1 hour and 45 minutes prior to my class just in case they are running behind again. They said the next one should be shorter. I'll be 18w that day which is definitely far enough along to learn the gender so maybe they'll send me over to radiology that day? I admit I was hoping he'd tell me when I'd have "THE" ultrasound. He gave me a bunch of orders for bloodwork. I called my primary care doctor's office, but their available appointment times didn't work for me. So I decided I'll just stop at the hospital (where the RE was) on the way back from ladies Bible study next Tuesday morning. He said it wasn't urgent. He said if anything is abnormal, he'll call me, but otherwise we'll discuss the results at my next appointment.

Since Paul didn't have to go to school today (his classes start tomorrow) and since he had an eye appointment this morning and also a car appointment, I asked him to come with me. So he got to hear our little one's heartbeat too! But actually I felt badly for him that he had to sit there for almost 2 hours for about 30 minutes of an actual appointment. It's been great to have him with me at these appointments. I made the next appointment that is at a time that's not good for him, but I figure I don't need to drag him to all my appointments, LOL! Now since I just said something nice about him, I can also say something funny. A couple of days ago he was on the phone with a friend from college. I could tell he was talking about baby and when he was silent and then answered "August" I had a feeling he had just been asked when the baby is due. I said it's JULY! LOL! I know I might be going back and forth between and EDD of 7-18 or 7-20 which is really such an unimportant thing, but come on I think he should at least know what MONTH the baby is due, LOL! His response was that he's not the calendar oriented person like I am, which is true BUT he'd better remember from now on that baby is due in JULY. The funny thing about a July EDD is that really this marks about exactly a one year gestation of sorts considering baby was conceived on August 1 then "week one" of pregnancy would have been two weeks before that. So from what would have been week one of a pregnancy (had this embryo been transferred on August 4 instead of Nov 1) until EDD is one entire year! And it feels like it's been that long. From Aug 1 (conception) to Nov 9 (BFP) felt like the world's longest 2ww as I knew conception had occured but didn't know if it would be a sticky bfp until Nov 9. So now I have to wait 4 weeks until the next appointment, but I think it will be easier now that I'm in the stage of pregnancy where the miscarriage rate is less than 1%!! PTL!!!! Of course I'll keep praying every day for our baby!!!!

On the list!

My church has a prayer list they distribute every Sunday which lists different people to pray for each day of the coming week (missionaries, Sunday School teachers, college students, etc.) and on the back has a few other categories of people to pray for such as those in the military. One of those categories is "expectant mothers." I had been checking the list every week for awhile waiting to see when my name would appear. Well silly me, I didn't know that they don't put the mother's name on there until she requests it (which makes sense!). While we were on vacation one of the church secretaries called and left a message on our answering machine asking if I wanted my name added. So I called back last week and said YES!!! and today I saw my name on the list and it almost brought me to tears. Seemed so official to see my name on that list, LOL.

I also had my first belly pat today. I remember years ago thinking it was kind of weird (almost rude) when I'd see people in say the grocery store who didn't seem to know each other and people seemed to like patting pg bellies. Well this wasn't a stranger, and it felt great. Now if I wasn't pg trust me I wouldn't want people patting my stomach, LOL! She said you look great, and I can see you have a little belly growing. Of course I didn't mind that comment as all as I can't wait until I really look pg. I am not there yet that's for sure, but maybe in another 6 weeks or so it will start to be more obvious by looking at me that there's a baby growing in there!

Back to BFP weight

I absolutely promise I have not been dieting the last few days. For example on Thursday night I had 3 slices of pizza for dinner and before the bfp I always would have 2 slices. I have been snacking FAR more than when not pg - apple here, popcorn there, etc. But I have been back to eating my regular foods vs. on vacation eating out far more than usual. Plus the other times during the pgcy that I weighed myself at home it was always FIRST thing in the morning whereas the last two times I weighed myself it was after eating breakfast etc. So anyhow I am back to the weight I was the first time I weighed myself after the bfp. And that was my goal. Back then (at 4w pg) I remember telling Paul I hoped to just maintain this weight during the first tri. Then I went down 5 lb and then back up to the bfp weight and then post vacation was 4 lb above the bfp weight. So anyhow I am happy that I have met my goal. I know I will gain weight in the 2nd and 3rd tris. I also know it's totally fine to not gain weight in the 1st tri. We shall see what the nurse and OB say on Tuesday, but my thinking has been that I should try to keep my pgcy weight gain to around 20 pounds or maybe 25 at the most since I was a little overweight to start with. Now I am going to go back to just weighing myself once a week. I was never weighed at the RE's, but I am sure I'll be weighed on Tuesday. On a final note, if my calculations are correct and I am 13w2d pg today, that means today I have officially entered the 2nd tri. YAHOOOOO! PTL!!!! Allison (a woman I know online) had a 5d FET exactly 7 days before my 6d FET. Her RE told her how far she was along and it's exactly 7 days before when I have figured I was. So it seems all REs don't agree on how to calculate an EDD post FET! I'll stop going back and forth after Dr. O tells me what he believes my EDD is.

Hot flash!

My body temperature has definitely been warmer during pgcy. I am the kind of person who is usually cold. Paul and I are in more agreement about the thermostat these days, LOL! He has been surprised quite a few times how warm I am when he touches my skin. He's used to me having ice cold hands! Well yesterday I had an intense hot flash. I didn't know if that was common or not, but I looked it up online today and found it is very normal. If I have any more hot flashes, I hope I keep having them at home as it's a lot easier to cool down at home!

Paul got very good news yesterday - his first acceptance into a PhD program (chemistry). We weren't expecting to hear this soon as the University of Delaware's deadline for applying is February 1. He applied at 6 schools, but based on this acceptance we have already eliminated at least 3 from consideration. Of course this prompted a lot of discussion between the two of us as to our future plans - particularly for my employment. We shall see how it all turns out. If he goes to Penn State for his PhD, I'll probably work part-time (teach 2 night classes a week) for a couple of years through taking half-time unpaid parental leave (I'd still be in my tenured position presuming I am granted tenure in a few months). I can take up to 4 years of unpaid childrearing leave should the President grant my request. That will likely be the route I'll take if he ends up at UD. My tenure (and promotion should I also be granted that this spring) are portable within the state system (14 universities) so I'd really rather not resign in case after Paul finishes his PhD (we're hoping he can finish in 4 years) he ends up with a teaching position in PA then I could go back to work and not need to go through applying for tenure again (and possible already be at Associate Professor as well). Well it will be interesting to see how many acceptances he gets, but he only needed one, and this was the one of the six his advisor was most hoping he'd get so he's off to a great start! I'm proud of my hubby! In addition to the accptance email, he also got an email from a prof who does the same kind of research he is doing with his advisor now in his Master's degree. It was obvious she is hoping Paul will accept the offer to come to UD and also choose to work in her research group. It's nice to feel wanted!!!

His area of research for any of you out there who are at all into physical chemistry is solid state nuclear magnetic resonance spectroscopy which is abbreviated SSNMR. Speaking of which even though it's a Saturday and the spring semester hasn't started yet (his classes start on Wednesday), that's where my hubby is right now - at school running the NMR. Today he is running sodium samples. Most of the time over the past year he's run zinc samples. He often has to grow the crystals and use the x-ray diffractometer in his research so he also works with a crystallography professor in addition to his SSNMR advisor.

Well I think it's time to eat again. I feel like I am perpetually eating, but I am trying very hard to eat healthy foods. The last thing I had was an apple for example. When I weighed myself yesterday I was down one pound so maybe all I've gained so far is 3 pounds. I know the weight gains will increase more rapidly in the 2nd and 3rd trimesters (unless I am like Lynn - thanks for sharing that info, Lynn). I know some people shed the pgcy weight very easily after giving birth, but given my usual battles with my weight, I have a sneaking suspicion I will be one of those who has to work very hard to shed all the pgcy weight. So I am trying to not gain any more than necessary.

FET Refund

While we were away, the hospital finally processed my refund for the FET. I had decided to call when we got back if it hadn't been processed yet (as the FET was Nov 1 and I had already gotten bills from the insurance saying what they wouldn't pay for by the end of Nov). We got $497 back of the $2,250 we prepaid for the FET. Originally I had thought we'd get about $750 back, but that was before I learned that they actually did assisted hatching (which costs $250). Of course I am VERY glad they did AH. I still wonder "what if" they had done AH in August if maybe we might not have lost those three embies. I wanted it done in August and November, and Dr. A was opposed both times. But someone in the embyrology lab must have thought otherwise as it was performed on the thawed blastocyst (even though we didn't even sign consent for it to be done). I wasn't as anxious this time for the refund since #1 well it WORKED so frankly it was worth every tiny penny and #2 we weren't gearing up for another fertility cycle. Usually I wanted to get the money back from the last one before we shelled out more for the next one. But still I am glad to get some of the $$ back since our insurance pays for the bloodwork and ultrasounds. Some people have to pay cash for everything related to IVF, and of course others pay for almost nothing. My cousin who just gave birth recently to twin boys from IVF in 2007 only had to pay for AH. Everything else was covered by her insurance. And she also lives in PA. But this little baby is worth every penny we paid to the hospital that is for sure!!!!

Home Sweet Home

Well our vacation was wonderful. I must say I think the Caribbean is just a beautiful place to be!!! However it does feel good to be home. Of course the transition from vacation to home always takes some work. Yesterday I did three loads of laundry and went to the grocery store for a few basic items (milk, OJ, bread, etc.). I did most of the unpacking. I still have a few Christmas gifts to put away. Thankfully it's unseasonably warm here which has helped our transition. It was in the low 80's during the daytime and in the low 70's at night in the Virgin Islands. I put on my winter coat at the airport in DC only to find myself taking it off on Tuesday night when my parents picked us up as it was too warm for a winter coat! It would have been tough to go from the beach in the 80's straight to snow so I'm glad it's warmer than usual here at home (although it's cooler here than in MD). Paul just left for school, and I'll be leaving shortly. I have a meeting today at 10 and another tomorrow morning as well (tech stuff). My classes start on Monday, and Paul's start on Wednesday so it will very soon be completely back to reality!

I weighed myself this morning and was a little chagrined that I had gained 4 pounds over the last 17 days (I last weighed myself on Dec 24). But I guess I am on target as they say gaining about 5 pounds in the first trimester is good, and I'll hit the 2nd trimester in a few days. I have gained 4 pounds from when I first found out I was pregnant. Actually I had gone down and up again in between so in some ways I've gained more than 4 pounds, but if I go from when I first found out I was pregnant until now, I've gained 4 pounds. Of course I wasn't eating as healthy as usual on vacation. I don't ever eat french fries for example, but I ate lots of them on vacation. I did eat some salads and bought fruit to have each day, but I also ate cheeseburgers and such which I normally don't. Well I will keep watching my weight to make sure it's not going up too fast. I'd like not to gain more than 20 more pounds total the whole rest of the pregnancy if possible since I was already a little overweight before I got pregnant. My appetite definitely shrank over the vacation. Towards the end of the vacation I couldn't eat very much in one sitting. I would feel famished and then eat a few bites and feel full. I felt badly since we were eating out and I couldn't take a doggie bag so I was leaving quite a bit of food on my plate which felt like such a waste. But normally we don't eat out much, and now if we do I can take home the leftovers. So I won't be wasting food like I was the last few days. I'll be curious to hear what the doctor and nurse tell me on Tuesday about how much weight they think I should gain during the whole pgcy. Of course the funny thing is I can't wait to be really showing and for people to look at me and be able to tell I am pg, but I don't want to see the #'s on the scale go up, LOL!

Two other updates would be #1 I thank those of you who were praying for my nephew, Joshua, who had craniofacial surgery at Hopkins on Monday (he's 9 months old). The surgery was a success! He actually might be discharged from the hospital as soon as today. We would appreciate continued prayers for his recovery as during the next 5 weeks it is critical that he not hit his head, and of course little tykes that age are often bumping into things and taking little tumbles. So he will need to be watched VERY closely. #2 I wrote Lifetime right before our trip as we were still on their email and snail mail lists. I figured I should tell them we'd be away and give them contact info in case they are still working with us even though our contract expired Dec 7. Well our coordinator said that they were still giving out our profiles until the supply we sent them ran out. I figure at the normal pace they'll run out by the end of this month as I only sent them 15 the last time as I thought they would stop sending them out on Dec 7. So who knows. I'd still love to be matched with a baby through Lifetime or Adoption Consultants, but it would have to be ASAP. But maybe the little baby within me will be our first child, and that will be awesome of course!!! Our 3rd home study expires in early February so our adoption efforts will stop at that point for the time being anyhow. I'm not going to tell Lifetime I am pg as I am pretty sure our profiles will run out before then, but I do plan to tell Cathy so she can put our contract with Adoption Consultants on hold. Well I'd better scoot off to work! Have a great day!

Happy New Year!

I hope each of you had a very Merry Christmas and that 2008 has gotten off to a good start for you and your family. We spent Christmas morning and afternoon with Paul's family and then drove to MD to spend the evening with my family. We visited with them the next three days as well. On the 28th we had a family photo taken which is not an easy task with 5 children ages 5 or younger! We hadn't all been together for 2 years, and it will likely be another 2 years until we're all together again. There will be at least 6 children in that photo!

Most of the gifts we received were centered on BABY - children's books, a Snugli, baby view mirror for the car, maternity clothes for me, etc. My parents also said we could pick out a rocker or glider for upstairs (we don't have any chairs in any of our 3 bedrooms), and for Paul's birthday gift (January 3) they said we can pick out a crib. I will be able to rock baby to sleep and have a place for him or her to sleep! I normally wear a size medium in most things, so my mom had bought me some medium and some large maternity clothes (several shirts and one pair of pants). Well almost all of them did not fit. Most of the shirts had an empire waist (as most maternity clothes seem to have). Well it turns out that although I often wear dresses with an empire waist in non-maternity clothes - 99% of maternity clothes with an empire waist do NOT fit me At All. The seam hits much higher than it's supposed to and looks well just plain awful! So we went back to JcPenney, Walmart, and Motherhood to exchange the clothes for bigger ones and also ones without empire waists. We did find ONE shirt at JcPenney on the clearance rack that had a seam that did hit me correctly (and we got it). So it was a bit depressing to be buying large and extra large shirts, pants, and shorts especially as I'm only 3 months pg now! The non-maternity pants I was wearing while shopping were size medium and still fit perfectly fine so it was rather puzzling to me. Of course anything that buttons/zips does not fit any more. :-) Most of the clothes I wear you can't tell that my belly has grown, but if I flatten my shirt, you can definitely see my little baby belly!

December 29 we left my parent's house at 5am (thank you, Mom!) for the airport and flew to Puerto Rico and then to St. Thomas. After we checked in at our resort, we headed straight for the beach. Our unit was just a few feet away from the beach!!! We didn't even put on shoes when we'd head out. We spent 7 nights at this resort and 4 of those days we never left the resort. The other three days were spent at Coki Beach (great snorkeling!), Charlotte Amalie (touring Blackbeard's castle and such like that), and more great snorkeling at Trunk Bay on St. John. Then on January 5 we took a ferry to Tortola and spent 3 nights at a hotel within walking distance of Road Town (the capital). While on St. Thomas we ate breakfast and dinner in our unit (I went grocery shopping on the 30th) and ate out for lunch, but on Tortola we just had a hotel room (no kitchen) so we ate lunch and dinner out every day. Sunday we went to Cane Garden Bay beach; it was the only day of the trip that it rained for more than 3 minutes. We couldn't go snorkeling as planned, but Paul had a blast body surfing the waves! Monday we took a ferry to Virgin Gorda and went to the Baths where we walked through huge boulders (sometimes we had to practically crawl and other times we had to hang onto a rope as we walked across a boulder). We also went snorkeling here. It was quite an amazing beach! I would not have fit between some of the boulders if I had been farther along in the pregnancy.

So all in all we had a great trip. Paul got a cold (that most of my family had) and then I got it while on vacation and then after he had felt much better for about 5 days he had a relapse and wasn't feeling well again on Tortola. Adam had pnumonia, Susie and my dad had bronchitis, etc. Unfortunately I can't post any pictures yet. First of all, our camera was ruined on Jan 3 at St. John. Five years ago I bought a special aqua pack for our camera and had taken the camera with us for snorkeling etc many times over the years, and it always stayed dry. I am not sure if I sealed it incorrectly or it is no longer working, but our camera was ruined. I was hoping that at least the memory card was not ruined as although a camera can be replaced, pictures cannot (and I had taken quite a few!), but sadly today when I put the card in my laptop I learned that the memory card was also ruined. We bought a disposable camera on January 5, so once we finish using that and get it developed I can scan and post some photos from the last couple of days of the trip, but that's all we have.

We only bought one souvenir and it was for baby! We bought a t-shirt and short set that says "St. Thomas." We had a hard time finding one that would be okay for a girl or a boy - the shorts are lime green. I definitely don't want to buy any more clothes until we know the baby's gender as I don't want everything to be yellow or green, LOL!

January 1 was my last shot (estrogen), and Monday was my last day on the progesterone suppositories. Yahoo! Sunday (or Tuesday) I hit the 2nd trimester (depending on which EDD is used). I'll stop switching between EDDs once Dr. Owusu tells me what he thinks my EDD is. I can't wait for my next appointment (6 more days!). I am to meet with the nurse for 1 hour and then the OB for 30 minutes. I am not sure if I'll have an u/s or not. Of course I'd love to see baby again if possible!!! I am just looking forward to the reassurance that baby is still doing fine. The morning sickness and heartburn lessened during the trip, but I still have my moments (like I've had heartburn most of the day today). Emotionally that doesn't bother me at all as I find these "symptoms" very reassuring that yep I'm still pregnant. I definitely increased my activity level during the trip, so I plan to start exercising again. One of my sisters got me a pgcy exercise DVD for Christmas. I hadn't done much At All the previous 2 months - a big change from my routine of walking or jogging 3.4 miles almost every day. I did a lot more walking on the trip and also a lot of swimming. I still get very winded rather easily, and I still sit down if I start having any cramping, but I don't feel as scared about getting some exercise. Well I am exhausted so it's off to bed for me. I was sleeping about 11 hours a night on vacation! I doubt I'll sleep that long tonight, but I am definitely ready for bed!